I used not to be very good at celebrating my successes. I’d take for granted all the hard work that had gone into achieving something and move right onto the next potential goal. I got a kick from the constant forwards momentum, not really knowing what to do with the downtime in between. So I made sure there was no downtime. I went from one thing to another, ticking them off the list, not really stopping for breath and definitely not stopping to acknowledge the journey.
Until recently. When I decided to change things.
Because effort is great and all that. But so is surrender. BOTH are required to reach a state of 'grace'. And all work and no play doesn’t leave much room for joy. And I kind of want more joy in my life; more fun, more laughter. Don’t you?
So yesterday was the perfect opportunity to take some time out to enjoy a rare tootle on my own trumpet:
🌟 I celebrated becoming a QUALIFIED LIFE COACH 🌟
6 months of hard work and commitment (3 of them whilst travelling), 14 modules packed full of learnings and gruelling assignments, 14 live training calls with our incredible BYCA teachers and expert coaches, 3 months of being life coached through my own personal goals and 4 months of supporting 4 awesome, pro-bono clients, each through their own six-week coaching series.
I celebrated the fact that back in January this year - whilst living in Bali - I chose to follow my heart by signing up to my amazing course. My intuition had been nudging me towards a career that supports others to become their best, most fulfilled selves for a while, but it took the prospect of all three of the kids going to school, and looming 'empty nest' syndrome to push me over the line into action.
I had a (far-fetched) dream...I took concrete steps towards making it happen...And yesterday, I graduated.
The result? My soul purpose and my career are in alignment. I am walking my talk. I am embodying RADICAL AUTHENTICITY.
Since yesterday was also Samhain - the ancient festival that celebrates the end (and beginning) of the Celtic New Year, a time during which the veil between our world and the next becomes its most transparent, I decided to pick a tarot card as a symbol for my vision for next year.
And I got the six of wands, symbolising "success, achievement and public recognition". Even the tarot was celebrating with me!
More poignantly however, the card has an even deeper meaning: it is about having faith in what you have achieved, about not letting fear or guilt get in the way of your success, about feeling proud of yourself and feeling worthy of others' attention.
It is about BELIEVING IN YOURSELF.
And this got me thinking about both how easy but also how hard this is to do. For how often do you hold your head up high and feel worthy of other people's attention? How often do you have faith in yourself and how your achievements will be seen by others? How often does fear or guilt stand in the way of your success?
It takes guts. And commitment. And courage.
Which is exactly what I'm going to practise.
Because like most things that don't come easily, they require exercising, just like a muscle. The more you practise courage, the more natural it seems.
Habits break habits.